Mother's Day is always a bitter sweet day for me. On one hand I am surrounded by amazing mom's that are the perfect example of what it means to be a mom. Unconditional love, massive amounts of patience, a smidgen of the ability to ignore everyone and everything around them, and the amazing sixth sense that lets them know without a single sound when her child needs her. To those Mom's, Cathy (my mom), Henri (mom-in-law), Mikayla and Lisa (my sisters), and Christine(sister-in-law) My hat's off to you and I want to wish you a Happy Mother's Day. You all are amazing mom's!! |
On the other hand, Mother's day reminds me, and a lot of women (and some men) what we do not have. For some it is a Mother who was taken too soon, or just wasn't around, for others, like me, it is the fact that despite all of our prayers, wishes, and effort we are not mom's yet, or even worse to those mother's out there who have lost a child, this is a very hard day. And so I am split, between my love and adoration for the Mothers that surround me, and the utter jealousy of not being in the Mom circle, only adjacent to it. |
This year I have to admit that instead of bitter jealousy I have a new emotion, one I have not felt in a long time as it relates to Mother's Day. I feel hope. As you know Brad and I meet with our new doctor on Friday, May 9th. We also met with the clinics coordinator and social worker, and have successfully completed step one of five. During that appointment we talk to the doctor about possible retrieval and transfer dates and processes and were surprised by the professionalism and organization of the clinic. We were essentially give two options, what is known as a fresh transfer and what is known as a frozen transfer. It seems very self explanatory but to break it down a fresh transfer takes a recently retrieved un-frozen embryo (fertilized egg) and transfers it into the surrogate about 5 days after it was fertilized. This option would require me and Jessie (our GC) to sync up our cycles and timing has to be perfect all around. The other option is a frozen transfer which is when an embryo is frozen instead of transferred at day 5, then is thawed when the Jessie is ready to receive the embryo. We have opted to do the frozen transfer which means that we are going to take the next steps to egg retrieval sooner rather than later and when Jessie and our finances allow we can move forward with the transfer! We chose to do a frozen transfer because of the craziness of schedules and to help break up the financial burden. The retrieval and fertilization of the eggs is the larger chunk of the cost, but a frozen transfer allows us to do everything in steps instead of one big shot. Once we have frozen embryos ready to transfer we will move forward with the lawyers and then the transfer!
Financially, even though we are splitting up the costs, this is still a huge financial undertaking, and anything and everything helps. Believe it or not, I hate asking for money and help, but I told Brad I would do anything I can to make this happen so Once again I am humbly asking for help. You can donate directly by clicking on the picture to the right, or feel free to contact us! We are planning a second Garage sale for May 31st, so please spread the word on that.
For now that is all I can update you on, we will know more about time lines and and exact costs after our next appointment which I will call and make Monday morning. I am so excited everything has been working out so far and cannot wait to celebrate my first Mother's day with my family in the near-ish future!!
Thank you everyone for taking a minute to read, and a Happy Mother's Day to you all!!
For now that is all I can update you on, we will know more about time lines and and exact costs after our next appointment which I will call and make Monday morning. I am so excited everything has been working out so far and cannot wait to celebrate my first Mother's day with my family in the near-ish future!!
Thank you everyone for taking a minute to read, and a Happy Mother's Day to you all!!